Friday, September 21, 2012

Comparisons

A mommy friend of mine recently shared a quote that went something (kinda) like this: "Don't compare your behind the scenes with everyone else's A-game."

Let me set it up for you:

If we were real life friends and I invited you to my house I would greet you at the door with my hair done, make-up on holding Kaylee who would be all dressed up complete with leg warmers and a coordinating headband. I would invite you into my perfectly spotless living room offering cucumber water and chilled watermelon slices and a puff of my Albuterol since I am sure if you are reading this you have CF. Yes, life in Inhaling Hope's house would look grand!

BUT

If you surprised visited me this morning without calling I would answer the door with my unwashed hair in a high ponytail, wearing a shirt that was drenched in breastmilk since I forgot to put on a breastpad when I fed Kaylee this morning. Kaylee would only be wearing her cloth diaper since she spit up said breastmilk all over her onsie. I would invite you into my living room where you would have to step over 3 different quilts I had on the floor for Kaylee to play on (why 3?!? she is the size of a small bag of rice and can't move) and dodge a pile of clean unfolded (and probably wrinkled) laundry while stepping around a pile I meant to put in the wash, but never got to it. I would only be able to offer you water from the tap where I would try to throw away the melted unopened otter pop (yes, I am 5 and was going to eat an otter pop in the morning) before you noticed since I never got around to actually eating it. Yes, life in Inhaling Hope's house would look like a big hot mess!

Basically, we love to show  our best side to others which considering how I looked this morning is a good thing, but we have to remember when we are comparing ourselves to others (which we shouldn't do, but we all know we do it sometimes) that we are probably comparing our worst moments with other people's best moments. 

With that said I am going to shower so I can wash the spit up out of my hair...
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  1. cindy baldwinSeptember 21, 2012 at 7:48 PM

    Ha! I love this post. I remind myself of the principles of that quote very often. It's sometimes so hard not to compare our worst to somebody's best, since we all try to put our best foot forward! If you'd come to my house, I would have still been in my PJs, with my hair a mess (I'm not sure I even brushed it today???), laying on the couch under a pile of blankets eating popsicles and watching BBC TV. When I wasn't throwing up. Sounds like we've both had interesting days! ;)

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    1. Inhaling HopeSeptember 23, 2012 at 11:16 AM

      You have a very good excuse to be unbrushed, unwashed, not dressed and under a blanket!! I try to remind myself when comparing that I have CF on top of everything else and so it is much harder to do it all when you have 2 hours of treatments to do!

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  2. MeSeptember 22, 2012 at 1:56 AM

    So true! I had unexpected guests a few weeks ago, it was lunchtime and I still had my pjs on, the house was covered in dog hair and there was stuff all over the floor. I was so embarrassed! But real friends don't care right? I hope anyway!!

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    1. Inhaling HopeSeptember 23, 2012 at 11:18 AM

      I hate/love surprise guests. Love the having visitors, but hate when I feel like I haven't prepared. You are right though, real friends shouldn't care at all!

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  3. Ruth JaySeptember 22, 2012 at 9:29 AM

    Story of my life! Lol. I had my mum over the other day and had cleaned so much I would happily have gone to bed instead.

    Hope you enjoyed your shower :)

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    1. Inhaling HopeSeptember 23, 2012 at 11:19 AM

      I have sooo been there...clean so much you wear yourself out! And yes, I did enjoy the shower and the peek-a-boo I had to play to keep Kaylee happy while she sat in her bouncer in the bathroom!

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  4. BethSeptember 22, 2012 at 4:59 PM

    This reminded me of a recent post I read on Enjoying the small things.

    Link: http://www.kellehampton.com/2012/09/our-weekend-it-was-shiny.html

    Mainly the part about comparing yourself with another momma who seems to have it all together. We all have those days where we are spot on. And then we have the days where we're not.

    I loved the fact that you've posted about this too. It seems that the universe is trying to tell me something through other people's words! It's something I tend to forget.

    Keep on inspiring us! And I'll compare my pile of clean, unfolded, wrinkled clothes, to your pile, and as it turns out... we're all in the same boat! =)

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    1. Inhaling HopeSeptember 23, 2012 at 11:21 AM

      I checked out that blog and started reading...oh my goodness the birth story of her second daughter made me cry buckets! I like the idea of comparing our piles of laundry which I am proud to say is *almost* completely put away...almost...

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  5. MeganSeptember 23, 2012 at 2:38 AM

    Wow! So much truth in this post! I laughed and wanted to give you a hug all at the same time. You are such an awesome mommy, and blogs are great for presenting yourself in less than perfect standards. Heck, I don't even have kids and it's a struggle to have a clean house all the time. :)

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    1. Inhaling HopeSeptember 23, 2012 at 11:23 AM

      I would have loved a hug and Kaylee would have to since she was probably cold hanging out in only a diaper!

      Thanks for the support and I am sure nobody in the world always has a clean house!

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